Recently @Thtsmygrlbymgc77, a female blogger from the American state of Oregon, very kindly agreed to be interviewed by me. To find out what her 'strike' rate is on having sex with men she's met from this site, why she likes a rabbit with a pulse and, far more important, how we can help her get out of that bad place she finds herself in, please read her very honest answers to the interview questions below.
â“1. As a warm-up to the interview, here are ten quick-fire, this-or-that questions to answer briefly and quickly without thinking too much. The Beatles or The Rolling Stones? Dog or cat? Fries or salad? Coca-Cola or Pepsi? Coffee or tea? Beer or wine? Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn or Sophia Loren? Paul Newman, Robert Redford or Steve McQueen? Dildo or vibrator? Spit or swallow?
The Beatles or The Rolling Stones? Beatles.
Dog or cat? Neither but if I have to choose then dog.
Fries or salad? Fries.
Coca-Cola or Pepsi? Pepsi all day everyday.
Coffee or tea? Coffee.
Beer or wine? Beer makes my clothes fall off and wine gives me a headache -wine, with dinner beer if its really really hot and the beer is really really cold.
Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn or Sophia Loren? Marilyn.
Paul Newman, Robert Redford or Steve McQueen? Steve McQueen.
Dildo or vibrator? Vibrator.
Spit or swallow? Depends on my tummy.
â“2. Why did you choose your username? On your blog bio, you refer to the "world according to 'TINK'". Who is Tink?
'That’s my girl' is something that Magicman1977 used to say to me a lot. (Only a partial username).
Tink is from a poem entitled Katinka that I found in an antique shop a long time ago (if I ever get to my storage unit I will share it in one of my posts). My Mom called me Katrina when she liked me and it was close and I liked the poem so that is me, Tink.
â“3. When and why did you join this site and, in particular, when and why did you decide to blog?
I believe it was in 2016, I was off a bad breakup and I was going to “be just like all the guys and f+++ everything that walked.
I wrote my first blog post in August 2022 because I was heartbroken. I wrote another one in October 2022 and I didn’t write again until October 2024 because I was heartbroken again. Slow learner and a really smooth talker. I had to write. I do not know where else to put all of the things that I am feeling. I just have to put it all somewhere.
â“4. How successful has your search for what you're looking for been on this site? How many people have you met up with from this site? And, how many from this site have you had sex with?
Going by my original reason for joining it has been very successful. I could have a revolving door if I wanted.
How many people have you met up with from this site? Gosh I would say I have met 15. And, how many from this site have you had sex with? And I would say I wouldn’t say but ok I will say eight.
â“5. What sort of things do you like doing in your spare time?
I make wire jewelry, and I have been teaching myself to draw and paint with acrylics. Making memories with my grandchildren and my daughter. Before covid I used to go out to sing a lot but there is not much around here anymore so now I have a karaoke app where I sing and can record alone or with others.
â“6. What is your favourite book, song, movie, television/streaming show and radio programme/podcast? And why are they your favourites?
Book. Diary of Anne Frank because of the bravery of all of them. Prison to Praise by Merlin Carothers, it reminds me to quit complaining. And #DEALWITHIT by Dr John A King, it's an excellent book for understanding C-PTSD (Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder) and how to be more and do more.
Song. I cannot pick a favorite song I am a romantic and raised with musicians whatever makes my body and soul move for the moment. Always Cher just because she IS. Also right now just about anything from Teddy Swims.
Movie. Schindler's List again because of the bravery and the care for fellow humans.
Television/streaming show and radio programme/podcast. I do not watch anything really on TV except YouTube about RVs [recreational vehicles] and Antiques Roadshow to get jewelry patterns or if I need to look up something for my drawing. I was hooked on a lot of the house-flipping shows for a while but only watch occasionally now. I do not really listen to any podcasts on a regular basis. I try to keep up with what is going on politically by listening and reading several different places in order to make my own decisions.
â“7. What were you like as a kid? And when a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
I was an awkward introverted nervous girl spent time listening to music, dreaming about romantic fairy tale happy endings and writing a lot of poetry. The worst thing I ever did was go get drunk at the coastguard base in Alameda Ca at 16 with some friends after a Job's Daughters dance. We were all dressed in our formals and they let us in so the guys would have someone to dance with. I do not like sloe gin to this day.
I wanted to be a dancer and dance with Gene Kelly and Fred Astaire (they were already too old). I was going to get a scholarship for dance out of high school and then I wanted to go to Vegas but we moved away and I got distracted.
â“8. If you could give your younger self some advice, what would it be?
Keep your knees together till you are older. People will NOT treat you the way you treat them. You are so much more than what they have said you are. Men do to like to perform oral sex and you do not have to always be the giver.
â“9. Have you had or are you having a friendship-with benefits? How many friends with benefits (FWBs) have you befriended? And how did they go?
In the truest sense of 'friends' I have had two and then there is the 'ooops' that I have written about that was way more than a friend.
I have had some really good times with the men I have chosen to play with from here and the two I saw regularly were pretty special. I would say, if it wasn’t for the mistake, I would at the very least still be in touch with them.
â“10. What is your favourite sex position? And why is this position your favourite?
On my back, feet on your shoulders while you are standing. And why is this position my favourite? Because of the visual and the depth.
â“11. What's been your best and worst ever sexual encounters? And why were they your best and worst experiences?
Best, wow, I cannot really say. Everyone is different. I would have to go with anytime there was a deep ongoing connection is always the best. The worst was someone licking my eyes and nostrils that was just creepy to me. And the guy that forced himself anal and called me a whore was pretty darn bad. And of course the betrayal that I write about in my posts.
â“12. Where has been the most unusual place you've had sex?
Haven’t been very adventurous so probably the bathroom, in the park or my boss's office.
â“13. Roughly (or even better exactly), how many people have you had penetrative sex with? And what's the most number of times you've had sex in one day? What's the most number of people you've had sex with in one day?
It is roughly my secret and exactly my secret also. I will leave that to the imagination of me being 68, not getting wild until later in life and what I have already said about who I have met here. Plus I have children.
And what's the most number of times I've had sex in one day? That would be five or six.
What's the most number of people I've had sex with in one day? That would be three.
â“14. Do you like sex toys and/or sex accessories? If so, what's your favourite sex toy and/or sex accessory to use on someone else and to be used on you, and why are they your favourites?
Do I like sex toys and/or sex accessories? I do yes.
I have used a vibrator on someone else and the same for me. It depends on my partner what they would want kind of. As for me it would be a rabbit. But my fave is the one with the air pulse, U-shaped one so it stimulates everything.
â“15. Have you had sex with more than two people involved? If so, what type or types of group sex have you been involved in? And, also if so, what's been the best group sex experience you've had, and why?
Yes. Having penetrative sex with two men one after the other. I have only done that a couple of times and it was great because I can orgasm forever.
â“16. What has been your most embarrassing sexual moment?
Oh wow this right here, LOL. When I first started having sex and oral was being performed on me, I kinda sorta had gas. And that is all I will say about that.
â“17. What is your perfect three-course meal? And what drink would you have with the meal?
Lobster with lots of butter, baked potato or rice pilaf and asparagus ... lemon water and Fireball [Fireball cinnamon whisky and lemonade]. Sorry to all the wine drinkers.
â“18. If you could invite three famous people, dead or alive, to join you at a dinner party, who would you invite?
Katharine Hepburn and Cher because of their ability to be and do and not be influenced by the masses. And Tom Hanks because I went to school with him and I want to know if he really still is genuine.
â“19. If you had to have sex with three famous people, living or deceased, who would you choose? And when I say deceased, I mean having sex with them when they were alive and not having sex with them when dead!
Sam Elliott, Brad Pitt and Matt Rife.
â“20. As the last question, please can you volunteer three bits of information about yourself that haven't been covered in this interview?
I am more than multi-orgasmic (or at least I was). I did not know what squirting was until I was 60. The things I write are very difficult for me to write because I am not a talker about sex. It is embarrassing to me and I do not think like that just out of the blue. I think with my body, the words just do not come to my mind to talk about erotic things. The music and the touch is where I come alive. The things I have already written about were inspired by someone very special to me.
I want to thank much @Deadprose for suggesting this interview and Spunky for going ahead with it. Somethings need to be done just for the fun of it and to get oneself out of a bad place.
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If not already interviewed, would you like to be interviewed?
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@Thtsmygrlbymgc77 is happy to stay behind and answer any questions you may have for her. So please post your tagged questions or comments below.
This interview is part of a series of interviews I have done with bloggers - see first comment at the end of the thread below for the list of bloggers so far interviewed.
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@Thtsmy.grlbymgc77 thank you so much for replying. No it wasn't too wordy at all. My story is that my step father replaced my mother with me, it was ok because we weren't blood related. Who tells a jr high child that!! I never knew or saw my father. His rein of terror so to speak lasted till I got married and moved away, I was 20. I became my siblings care giver even though my mother was right there, and I always needed to go with him for whatever his stupid reason was and she never objected, to the suffering of my education, I barely graduated high school. 1st marriage ended in divorce for various reasons, of course one being I couldn't be that free in bed and betrayal. Long story short is it was not only the sexual violation I endured there was the emotional abuse and set up to fail leaving me to fear what total strangers could and would do to me. Given that my mother was a total slob and didn't teach me much of anything whether it be to care for myself etc. So you can imagine embarrassment I endured when teachers would pull me to the side in regards to femine hygiene products and cleaniness, not knowing I didn't have proper access to that or being able to bath everyday. He so instilled wihin me that I didn't have the power everyone else does. Life events since my final departure out of those circumstances only compounded that seed of fear to an overhelming struggle to get out of apt just to deal with grocery shopping, appts, and getting together with friends. There are just over a handful of people that know most of the details of my story, and have urged me to write a book. When i ask why, their response is " you've gone through so much but yet you are still a very kind, giving, loving person in spite of it all." True enough but I have scoffed if off till recently when I was chatting with a gentleman here. In the course of our chatting he got brave enough to ask politely if I suffered sexual abuse, which surprised me. Seems he had dated a couple women, different times of course that they too had been abused and asked him to help them avenge them but doing harm to abuser. My attitude about that and how I looked at all men, prompted him as well in promoting writing a book as well, and he only knew some of my story. I have been tossing the idea around only if I do it as kind of a self help book. One where I share my experiences and how I have over come some and learned how to avoid certain triggers, and learn from a challenge as to what the trigger was. Most recently though I have been pondering the idea of writing a blog to see if what I have to share might provide some insights that could help others........... Yes i am taking the chance of being bullied but how is that any different then some of the other forms of abuse, ridiculed, teased, called a liar and more, I ve come this far so why not try and help others as well. .................... I did look up Dr King and his book, I just wanted to get your perspective given you had read it and it helped you. I read a number of books, had counseling on and off over the years and learned from that I realized this will be a life long process, and as I m sure you will agree, no matter how you deal with it, and even becoming a survivor, it doesn't erase it, make it disappear, it only defines you if you let it. Thank you again for responding, very much apprecaited. Bless you
I'll tag @Thtsmygrlbymgc77 so she can read your comment.
@spunkycumfun Thank you, just learning how to negotiate responding and tagging within the blog realm. Need to get with it more if I decide to write a blog myself.
@Barlowgirl52 You are with it. And I hope you choose to blog. I've found it to be a cathartic experience and blogland to be a very supportive environment to air one's issues.
Great interview, Spunky ðŸ˜
Loved the jewelry, @Thtsmygrlbymgc77. I like Fireball, too. It goes great with hot chocolate on a cold winter night
I'm glad you liked the interview.
Thank you for sharing yourself Tink! I would love to hear more.
Thank you Spunky!!
I'm pleased you enjoyed reading the interview with @Thtsmygrlbymgc77.
I enjoyed reading your interview with Tink, I don't read many. First thing that sparked and interest is that Tink lives in my home state, Oregon, second was when she stated her age and that she came into her sexuality late in life as I have as well. Her responses to your questions were similar to mine if I had been the one asked. But I would love to discuss with Tink about her reference on the book Dealwithit and how it has helped her and for what reason. Being an incest survivor I am always on the look out for something that helps me with another step to becoming a stronger one. I m so glad I took the time to read your interview Spunky, both thought provoking and worth the time.
I'm pleased you enjoyed the interview with @Thtsmygrlbymgc77 and I'll look forward to reading her response to your query.
@spunkycumfun I hope so too. Looked up book and find this could be one I need to read, but given some residue issues I deal with on a daily basis, I need her impute on a couple things. I don't want any unforseen back stepping to happen.
@Barlowgirl52 I hope you get some useful input.
@Thtsmygrlbymgc77 just discovered this, since its 5 months later I hope things going ok with you
@Thtsmygrlbymgc77 I didn't see the reply until moments ago. Yes it did address some of the concerns I have about reading this book given some of the challenges I ve faced and deal with yet, some finally getting to the core making it easier to deal with. Others I haven't been able to succeed to that level yet, fear being the worst of them all. It affects not only me but all of us who have endured such trauma. It becomes something that as you age it becomes so difficult to keep buried and controlled as it was when you were younger because the fear of people finding out was stronger back then. It affects your sleep, which in turn affects your health and it trickles on down the line, but even with that I m still proud of the survivor I have become and strive to strengthen. For those who have walked in my shoes and similar my prayers, hugs and blessings are always going out to you, especially to those that still hide their trauma to this day.
Let's fuck
Let's not.
Splendid, candid and very open Tink. We'll done, as usual Spunky, thanks to both of you. Doc
I'm glad you liked the interview with @Thtsmygrlbymgc77.
Glad that you did this Thtsmygrlbymgc77 and if it helped you all the better. We all know how hard it is after we lose a love. Like to hear you sing sometime and I like your art work. Nothing like creating to keep ones mind active. Got a kick out of the gas thing going on had that problem once myself so I'm glad it isn't just me. LOL Funny about the Sloe Gin, when I was younger I used to drink Slo Gin Fiss drinks while in the recording studio. Are all your drawings pencil sketch?
I'm pleased you liked the interview with @Thtsmygrlbymgc77.
I still enjoy drinking sloe gin!
@spunkycumfun Me and my friends drank a lot of it back in the old days.
@RavenMoon696 I used to make my own sloe gin. It was potent!
@Thtsmygrlbymgc77 It's Not about being famous it's about the joy one gets from whatever we do in life and trying our best to do it well.
@spunkycumfun As kids we tried making Dandelion wine once and it was pretty strong,
@RavenMoon696 I used to also make dandelion wine but it wasn't a success as it smelt and tasted like fermented urine!
@spunkycumfun In other words Camel piss, LOL At least that is what our tasted like.
@RavenMoon696 There's no way I'm drinking camel piss even if it was served up to me as camel piss wine!
@Thtsmygrlbymgc77 I still write, sing, record and play because it is in my heart and soul not to mention it brings me peace and so much joy to create. Which I am sure what you do does also. And hey I'm a fan of your sketches and maybe one as well to your singing, if I had the chance to hear you. Might even lead to doing some vocals for me.
@Thtsmygrlbymgc77, @spunkycumfun Me either, it was just a term we used to call drinks that we didn't like. But I do believe they drink it in the middle east.
@Thtsmygrlbymgc77 When I stopped touring, I did local things where we moved to and had met some very talented people. After Creating another CD with 3 of those people 2 of the members of that project and myself went on to put together a band to help raise money for different things. I called an old friend to do the guitar work, and we were looking for a female singer to add. I found her in a mall with my wife one day. She walked by singing and my wife looked at me and said did you hear that. Me I looked up at her and said what. My wife replied that girl singing she is very good. So, I went up and introduced myself and told her what we were doing. Long story short she had never been in a band before but would like to give it a try. This young woman was unbelievable Talent. We did many shows to raise money, and she is still singing to this day.
Another great interview my friend and like her I get headaches from wine too. She's had a very interesting life for sure. And I like who she would enjoy having sex with one of her picks Sam Elliott oh yea she really knows her men..
Thanks for sharing this great read this morning, and I hope your Tuesday is a terrific one too..
I'm very pleased you enjoyed @Thtsmygrlbymgc77's interview.
Tom Hanks was your classmate!
I am jealous! Nice interview, thank you both 
I wonder whether @Thtsmygrlbymgc77 got a kiss from Tom Hanks!
@Thtsmygrlbymgc77 Yes, I enjoyed reading. Thank you for telling me the anecdote about Tom! He seems like a fun guy, yes.
Interviews have been conducted with the following bloggers:
A spoof interview was conducted with kzoopair - see AN INTERVIEW WITH A CHINESE BALLOON.
As payback for these interviews, CleavageFan4U interviewed me - see Turning the Tables on That Nosy Brit.