Here we go again, looking for a little help here in a tough split decision. Out with friends recently and one of the guys mentioned he was seeing a new girl. They currently have a FWB situation but she wants more now. They went to school together and they recently reconnected after 10 years. During those 10 years, she got married, had 3 kids, and now in the process of getting a divorce. She says she wants to be in a relationship with him, even though he made it clear thats not what he wanted when they first started talking (they both agreed at the time). Not only is she constantly pressuring him into a relationship with her, he said that her kids drive him crazy due to their misbehavior.
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Well this is a toughy. So no judgment but I guess they were having sex a lot. So first you have to understand biology. Nature wants children to survive. So when you start seeing another person a lot, you form bonds, this is natures way of making sure children make it. So you stop seeing her so much or you have to talk about it and see if you can work it out. Be honest about her children. Most likely you will never have control over them, you accept that or move on. My honest guess is that this will FWB will fall apart. It may take a few months or several months but it will lead to either a breakup or you will be dating.
Just be honest
Been there and done that and it worked out
okay.... so how does he tell her?
@CeeTeeDeeKay just say would like to see if the feelings i have for you are the same and go from there
I think he should tell her how much he enjoys what they have but be clear that he wants it to continue as it is. There is risk she will not be happy with that. Still, it is unfair to lead her on if she wants to something different. The alternative is to be sucked into an uncomfortable relationship that HE will be unhappy with.
In fairness, many women agree to an FWB situation hoping they will convince the man to take the next stepâ€stepâ€. That is equally unfair.