Here are 4 of the craziest things that people have done during a break-up

Biggest age difference? I am still in contact with a lady I met 5 years ago and she simply adores the 45 year difference between us. She thinks of me when in bed with her bf and loves the idea of us cheating. In the Harrisonburg, VA area, btw

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How to save a relationship after you confess to cheating 1. Be honest with your partner Now is not the time for damage control, ‘forgotten’ pieces of information or a campaign of smoke and mirrors. In order to restore trust, full disclosure is necessary. Censoring your confession will lead to a flimsy resolution, and you’ll feel the foundations of your relationship shift uneasily beneath your feet. Ultimately, that general apprehension you before will simply linger. It’s not just about confessing past crimes, however. It’s equally important to be honest about your sense of the future. Resist the temptation to roll out comforting platitudes – ‘It will never happen again’, ‘I’ve gotten it out of my system’ – if these don’t feel true. An open discussion now will hopefully spare you a much more bruising conversation further down the line 2. Be honest with yourself Cheating can be symptomatic of other, relationship problems. It’s important to be realistic with yourself and question why the infidelity occurred in the first place. In the heat of a crisis you may instinctively try to preserve the relationship at any cost. You may also grow nostalgic for happier times and end up sentimentalising things beyond recognition. However, if you have misgivings, it’s important to pinpoint them and explore if and how they can be fixed. A desperate attempt to ‘get back to the way things were’ will see you chasing after an unsatisfying fantasy. 3. Get external help Humans are hardly rational at the best of times. Adultery, however, can propel us to the furthest reaches of irrationality, uncharted terrain of bias and bad blood. While you may feel you’re being level-headed and totally, one hundred per cent objective and not defensive at all, it’s possible your feelings may be clouding things. Couple’s counselling or therapy sessions can help keep things on an even keel contributing a baseline of independent thought. Having a trusted, external arbiter can also help carve a safe space that allows you both to access buried feelings and be more forthcoming with them. 4. …But be selective about the counsel you keep Friends will want to weigh in. Family members will have strong opinions. Hell, even strangers will toss in their two cents and tell you about a ‘similar situation’ they’ve encountered. Most of these people will be well-intentioned, hoping to offer comfort or direction. During a time of crisis, it can be extremely tempting to rely on this sort of guidance and fall back on their advice. However, be wary of inviting too many opinions and confusing the situation. Ultimately, you and your partner with have a better grasp of the nuances of your relationship than that guy at the pub. Be especially cautiously of seeking advice from friends Ultimately, a painful process of introspection is necessary in order to reach a resolution with any substance. 5. Don’t seize the limelight. Guilt has been gnawing at you for weeks. Now, remorse sweeps through you and maybe even a bit of confusing relief. You’ve got a lot going on inside and a lot to get of your chest. However, if you find that you are doing most of the talking, something has gone totally wrong. Overwhelming your partner with your side of things or your own emotional journey is a way of stifling theirs. Don’t dictate the terms of their grief, listen, be receptive and take it from there.

Here are 4 of the craziest things that people have done during a break-up Emily, graphic designer My ex gave himself a ‘prison tattoo’ of my full name (which is really long) using pen ink and a piece of glass he’d found on the floor. He also carved it into a tree and sent me pictures of both. The tree has fortunately gone now, I’m not sure what happened to the tattoo. David, recruiter My ex-girlfriend tried to run me over with her car. The next day, while I was at work, she texted me to tell me how fit I looked while running away Jenny, shop assistant My ex-boyfriend of seven years told me he was going travelling in South America for a year to ‘find himself’. He had actually moved in with the woman he’d been cheating on me with – less than half a mile away. Ruby, makeup artist My ex sent flowers to my work and waited outside for me to finish. When I left that day, I snuck out the back and he text me saying: ‘I know you’ve left somehow, why are you acting like this? Don’t make me kidnap you!’ ‘Don’t make me kidnap you’ became the reaction my friends gave to absolutely everything I did for the next few months.